Who doesn’t dream of Disney’s version of happily ever after where the dashing, good looking prince sweeps the poor, desperate but beautiful princess off her feet? If you are a man you yearn to be the rich prince who can provide for the every need of a beautiful damsel with all your money. As a woman you perhaps look forward to waking up every morning with a rose on your pillow, dining extravagantly by the gleaming river every night, and making love in the back of a horse drawn carriage.
Do you think this is what happened to Prince Charming and Cinderella? If you have ever been trapped in the chemical induced high of a new relationship you probably feel the person with whom you are infatuated is your soul mate. You might even feel you have found your very own fairy tale Prince Charming or Cinderella. And yet a few years later when those chemicals dissipate and the vines of responsibility constrict all romance, each spouse may wonder if they married the wrong person.
As we know fairy tales exist only in the movies. Rarely are prostitutes swept off the streets by a handsome, rich man and married as in Pretty Woman. Even if this happens what becomes of them when the curtain falls? We see the couple at the height of their infatuation and feel they are destined to a fairy tale future.
But guess what? This seldom happens and all those right now contemplating divorce because their marriage did not turn out to be the fairly tale of which they dreamed need to take caution. Let’s fast forward five years into Prince Charming and Cinderella’s future to find out what really happened to them.
Though they started out happy Prince Charming’s duties to the kingdom soon take priority as evil forces started massing against him in the next realm. No longer could he spend his day rushing to the needs of his princess. He now spends 12 hours a day ensuring the outer defenses are secure. Cinderella as well must tend to duties in the castle and represent the kingdom at many social engagements. By the time she retires to their chambers the Prince is already asleep or vice versa. Furthermore when they do have time for each other, seldom do they have the energy for play. The threat of attack has so preoccupied Charming that he barely has any desire for Cinderella and when he does Cinderella is too overwhelmed with their children to care. This leaves the other feeling dejected and unattractive.
Eventually because neither can meet each others’ needs, sexual frustration creeps in and individuals once representing no temptation now catch the Charmings’ eyes. The prince becomes attracted to the courage and skills of a gorgeous archer under his command. Cinderella’s desire for the caring and compassionate stable master grows each time he brings an apple to her children and gently sets them upon their steeds. Now the cycle begins anew. The chemicals swirling through their brains which once created endless desire for one another now spurn them into the arms of another. Their past lustful addiction to one another which waned under the pressure of responsibility is rekindled for new objects of desire. As a result, when the addiction burns brightest, they contemplate whether their marriage ever should have taken place, not for once considering the same downfall will occur with their new romances.
The devil is truly a wolf in sheep’s clothing and will using caring, compassionate people to lead us astray from the covenant we make before God. Why? Because broken marriages delight him. Love is not an emotion. The unquenchable passion you experience at the beginning of a relationship is the result of brain induced chemicals. Once those wane love becomes a decision. Do you love your spouse? Can you forge through dirty diapers, family duties or warring forces that seek to divide you or will you forever search for a fairy tale?
The current divorce rate in the United States is 50%. According to some surveys the rate of infidelity among men equals that and for women it is as high as 40%. Will you be another statistic? Another notch on the Devil’s walking stick?